How to be a Single and Remain Faithful to the Lord
In our present time, it is now usual for marriages be uncommon as there are several accepted however ungodly ways to leave the loneliness of singlehood and risk in casual relationships. A Christian is offered no exemption from all the social and personal pressures, however, their relationship with God and close walk with the Holy Spirit enables them to maintain purity and righteousness.
In the research entitled Marriages and Divorces by Ortiz-Ospina and Roser (2020) which was published online at OurWorldInData.org, there have been a strong decline of marriages across the world starting in 1970s. US records the lowest dip in marriage rates by 50% since 1972 according to the said research.
If you are a true Christian and are still valuing godly relationship, finding true love is difficult in the existing condition. Demanding lifestyle, social distancing and ageing add pressure in finding a spouse to which, Christians are not exempted and often fall to compromises and enticements.
How should a true Christian transition from singleness to true love relationship that honors God in the present age of moral deterioration?
Live in faith and not in fear.
Fear leads to hasty and wrong decisions with damaging consequences but walking in faith pleases God (Hebrews 11:6). Many of us are familiar with Abram (later named Abraham) who was known for his faith and obedience to God when he left his country to a land that God showed him (Genesis 12:1-9). However, Abraham’s faith was moved to fear during the time of famine in the land. He feared being killed by Egyptians because of his attractive wife Sarai and made a compromise by lying that she was her sister (Genesis 12:10-20). The result of this deception brought diseases on the Pharaoh and his household for God punished them for taking Abram’s wife. Abram was then driven out of Egypt together with his household and properties.
Likewise, the pressures faced by Christian singles can lead to fear of facing the future alone so, they commonly give in to temptations and engage in compromising Christian values for relationships that are not glorifying to God. Fear shifts a Christian’s focus on the providence of God to the self-made solutions that frequently fails.
On the other hand, God fulfils his promises unto the one who obeys and has walked in faith. If you have asked God for a godly spouse, have faith that He will answer your request. God knows how to give good gifts to those who ask from Him (Matthew 7:11).
Write down your godly relationship goals.
A lot of evidence suggests the much higher success results as a benefit of writing down goals. Perhaps, you have experienced buying the exact product you need when you have written down the specifications you wanted.
Jack Canfield, the originator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul has advised to write down in as much detail what you want your life to appear. Clarity of goals can be achieved through writing and the clearer the goals are, the better it is to turn into existence.
Your goals for godly relationship are no different. If you know distinctly what the bible says about the characteristic of a godly relationship, the better you can find the right person and the lesser you will settle to a relationship with a person that is corrupt. God himself wrote the laws in a stone tablet to make it clear to Moses what he will teach his people (Exodus 24:12).
Record the characteristics of a godly spouse that you are looking for. Write the goals of your relationship and how you want to serve God together. Present this plan to God and ask Him to bless it (Proverbs 16:3).
Join other singles in serving God.
There are many ways to meet single, devoted and active Christians. One of the ways I suggest is to join other singles who are serving God through the church or ministries. Having friends at church can increase your chances of meeting the godly spouse.
Presently, lockdown and online church set-up has prevented the face-to-face encounters and lowered the chances for interaction with other Christian singles. Don’t lose optimism because you have an even wider population to choose from for your godly spouse via online.
Christian online dating offers a solution for today’s singleness concern. However, examine carefully whether the sites reflect God’s perspective of godly relationship. Do these sites enable you to meet Christian that truly serve the Lord?
Living by faith, clear godly relationship goals and serving God together with Christian singles are opportunities presented to transition you to a possibility of finding your godly spouse and remain a faithful single for the Lord.
