Friday Flashback: If It Ain’t Broke …
The Generous Husband
So you wake up, turn on your computer, and it won’t make coffee. Naturally, you open it up and try to fix it, right? Maybe the caffeine board has gone bad? Or it could be a software problem, so you try reinstalling coffee. The truth is you are never going to get coffee out of it and you will almost certainly destroy the system if you keep trying.
I offer this word picture because I see men do this to their wives all the time. They want to fix something that isn’t broken. They want to make her into something she was never designed to be. One big way we do this is by trying to get our wife to think, feel, reason, or communicate the way we do those things. We want her to use the same words, with the same meanings, that we use. We want her to care about the same things, to the same degree, and not care about the things we don’t care about. Of course, this is asking a Windows computer to run Ubuntu software.
Your chances of changing her are the same as your chances of getting a latte out of your computer and the odds that you will hurt her in the process are high. Your attempt to change her communicates to her that there is something wrong with her, that she is broken. In reality, there is nothing wrong with her – she is simply different.
We do this with our wife’s sexuality too and, no, that doesn’t end well!
BTW – before someone links to it, this “PC that makes coffee” is fun, but it’s a latte machine in an empty computer tower case.
[This post first appeared Oct 25, 2011.]
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