Are You Trying to Convince Her or Yourself?
The Generous Husband
The last couple of days I’ve talked about how our fear of others trying to make us someone we are not leads to us having fights about silly things in our marriages.
I think one thing that helps prevent this is being sure of ourselves. When I’m confident I’m right, I don’t need to fight like a crazy person to prove that to others.
I distinctly recall the first time that my teenage self was arguing with my mother and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was right and she didn’t have a clue. I didn’t need to prove I was right to her because I knew I was right.
The thing about trying to prove we’re right about something is we are usually far more invested in convincing the other person that they are wrong. If you know you’re right, you don’t have to make the other person look or feel bad.
Right or wrong is sometimes important, but there are kind loving ways to work through such things. Often when we fight about who’s right we’re actually arguing about preferences and the truth is neither is wrong. What’s more, neither is universally better. What works best for me might not be the easiest or most effective for my wife. But when we feel unsure of ourselves, we feel a need to make every difference a matter of right or wrong.
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